Friday BBQ Spotify 6/14/13
It’s been a busy week for us, so I’m a couple of days late for this week’s music. Probably just as well though, since I had already wanted to do a Father’s Day theme ahead of this weekend. The Giants are playing in Atlanta, the A’s are hosting the Mariners, it’s game 5 of the NBA Finals, and the final round of the U.S. Open is under way. For man-cavers, it’s Father’s Day Heaven. And we’re gonna listen to some music that makes us think about being a Dad (or just being a man), whether it’s thinking deep, strutting our stuff, or laughing out loud.
When I was growing up, Father’s Day always felt a little different than its gender counterpart, and not just because of its obvious component. Mother’s Day was always about doing things for Mom, as well as buying her gifts. Bring her flowers, take her out to eat, buy her something she’s always wanted. A deep love-connection kind of day. Father’s Day was more of a subtle appreciation/ participating in an event kind of day. More often than not, Dad would head up the events of the day. He’d cook the food (most likely running a backyard barbecue), or herd everyone in the car to go to the beach or neighborhood park, or take everyone out to a special restaurant. And more often than not, he just wanted a day to relax and savor his world. Maybe play a round of golf or even do some yard work without a schedule or agenda. Have everyone around to just remind him of why he works so hard. Let him take a nap if and when he wants, and don’t feel like you have to get up to do anything. My Dad would always say that he liked to do things for others on his day, because it reminded him just how much he enjoyed being a father. Having people around him on that day was what mattered to him, even if he did all the work. I’m only a couple of years into the Father’s Day receiving end, but I get it. I absolutely adore my girls. They love me immensely and drive me crazy beyond measure sometimes. But I would do anything and everything in my power for them. And even though they always do things for me on Father’s Day and buy or make me cool gifts, I just need to have them around to remind me that I’m doing OK at this. Can always get better, but hey Dad, you’re doing OK and we love you. You’re doing the best you can. Some Dads fight in world wars, and some just fight it out every day to make enough money to feed their families. And most don’t feel like they need a lot in return. Just be there on my day. Remind me that I’m doing OK. But just this once . . . sit back and take it easy this time. Appreciate how others feel about you on this day. Your day. If the kids offer to cut the grass or grill up some barbecue to show how they feel, let ‘em do it for you. You’ve earned it. Happy Father’s Day weekend everyone.